What would you do if the sex in your relationship slowed down… buggered off…faded and went to this far away plane and moved to another planet — to extinction. If this happened to me, I would try chocolates; the girls tell me cocoa substitutes warm
caresses and snuggles and often seems to do the jig for them. If that does not help I would scream, shout, pull my hair out and — sorry honey, I would dump the monkey! (The dimpled hot boy from the gym would be a yummy thought for now!)
The first thing I feel is that the mere mention of the word sex sends everybody running for cover, makes the entire environment so uncomfortable. Isn’t it a bit hypocritical for a country where the national pasttime seems to be sex. How else would you explain our booming population? No government surviving, but that I guess is another topic which I or any other Indian would not want to get into. So, are we not just fed up!
Gaps…these communication gaps, which also lead to a lot of unsatisfied women. You see, sex is an integral part of any relationship. It is the spark which keeps the fire burning in a relationship. A huge ugly quarrel can be easily settled by a long lingering kiss and as they say, make up sex is the best sex of ‘em all, isn’t it people?
So what do you do when the attraction seems to be fading? When both of you spend endless nights facing away and staring at the walls whereas you should be looking into each other’s eyes instead. Passionate nights are replaced by lonely ones where you start dreaming about younger men sweeping you off your feet and men start texting their exes and destroying whatever little is left in the relationship.
Well, here’s how you can fix this problem in a few easy ways. (There’s no ‘magic’ wand that will do that for you.)
Firstly, let’s talk people, talk about your likes and dislikes. There’s no need to be coy with the person you love (that beats the purpose of being in love in the first place), so communication is the key. Tell them how you like it!
It is also very important to be selfless in bed. You should always want to make your partner happy. Boys, please pay special attention to this, it is a very unattractive quality, the act of sex is intimate and beautiful. It should be above life and more. Not just a necessity you need to get over within three minutes. The bed is always about the ladies, so be a man.
But sometimes if all of the above doesn’twork, there is a very good reason for that. The fact that this person doesn’t seem to be attracted to you is because, as David Guetta puts it in his famous track, the Love Is Gone! So you should at this point realise that your relationship is over and you need to move on.
In addition, attraction isn’t something that can be altered. Either you live with that
person because you cannot live without them and make it work, or not. The choice is yours; it always is. The best way is to be honest to yourself when assessing the reasons and taking the decisions which often have huge consequences.
We might not like to admit it, or talk about it, but clearly we can’t seem to do without it. So stop being helpless women from the black and white era. We women today are independent and outspoken, so why not tell that man exactly what wewant because he is too dumb to know it anyway!
Source: dnaindia
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